Dating Coach for foriegn men to Japanese women
Dating Coach for foriegn men to Japanese women
How long until the first date on the matching app? How many messages should I send?
When exchanging messages on a matching app,
there comes a time when you think, "I want to go on a date soon,
but is it okay if I ask you out?"
In the case of women, there
are more matches than men, so if the exchange lasts longer than a
month, the desire to meet will fade and the possibility of meeting
will disappear.
Therefore, you can generally think of the exchange
period from matching to dating as 1 to 2 weeks.
If you've been
dating for a week or two, you've gotten to know each other to some
extent, so it's time to go on your first date.
It is said that the
number of messages sent back and forth is around 10 to 15 for men and
around 15 to 20 for women.
Reference article
• [2 weeks]
Flow and average period until meeting on the matching app | Tips and
notes for connecting to a date are also explained!
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【Example】How
to invite someone on a first date on a dating app?
The person you
meet on the matching app is in a state where you don't know what
suits you.
Therefore, when inviting someone on a first date, it is
basic to invite them based on what they are interested in. In the
case of a matching app, let's check the hobbies and likes in the
profile.
You can also find out what the other person is interested
in by exchanging messages, and you can use that as an opportunity to
invite them.
Let me give you an example of how to invite someone.
• Mr. 〇〇,
you said you like Italian. I'd like to go to a popular shop that
recently opened, so if you don't mind, would you like to go with me?
• Mr. 〇〇,
you like movies, don't you? I'm also interested in the movie △△
that is being released now, but would you mind going with me?
If
you feel the benefits of dating with yourself, it will be easier for
the person you meet for the first time on the matching app to respond
to the first date.
Reference article
• How to ask a good
first date. Timing and place selection tips to invite on LINE
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Where is the best place to go on a first date with a
dating app? What time should we meet?
When you go on a first date,
you often get lost in planning, such as where to go and how long to
spend together.
From here, I will introduce the recommended places
for the first date, along with the reasons.
Recommended shops and
places change according to the time, such as daytime dates and night
dates, so we also introduce recommended spots according to date
patterns.
Also, explain how long it is appropriate to break up on
the first date.
How
long until the first date on the matching app? How many messages
should I send?
When exchanging messages on a matching app,
there comes a time when you think, "I want to go on a date soon,
but is it okay if I ask you out?"
In the case of women, there
are more matches than men, so if the exchange lasts longer than a
month, the desire to meet will fade and the possibility of meeting
will disappear.
Therefore, you can generally think of the exchange
period from matching to dating as 1 to 2 weeks.
If you've been
dating for a week or two, you've gotten to know each other to some
extent, so it's time to go on your first date.
It is said that the
number of messages sent back and forth is around 10 to 15 for men and
around 15 to 20 for women.
Reference article
• [2 weeks]
Flow and average period until meeting on the matching app | Tips and
notes for connecting to a date are also explained!
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move
【Example】How
to invite someone on a first date on a dating app?
The person you
meet on the matching app is in a state where you don't know what
suits you.
Therefore, when inviting someone on a first date, it is
basic to invite them based on what they are interested in. In the
case of a matching app, let's check the hobbies and likes in the
profile.
You can also find out what the other person is interested
in by exchanging messages, and you can use that as an opportunity to
invite them.
Let me give you an example of how to invite someone.
• Mr. 〇〇,
you said you like Italian. I'd like to go to a popular shop that
recently opened, so if you don't mind, would you like to go with me?
• Mr. 〇〇,
you like movies, don't you? I'm also interested in the movie △△
that is being released now, but would you mind going with me?
If
you feel the benefits of dating with yourself, it will be easier for
the person you meet for the first time on the matching app to respond
to the first date.
Reference article
Where
is the best place to go on a first date with a dating app? What time
should we meet?
When you go on a first date, you often get lost in
planning, such as where to go and how long to spend together.
From
here, I will introduce the recommended places for the first date,
along with the reasons.
Recommended shops and places change
according to the time, such as daytime dates and night dates, so we
also introduce recommended spots according to date patterns.
Also,
explain how long it is appropriate to break up on the first date.
To
make your first date a success, think carefully about where you
choose to spend your time.
Best place for first date
1.
[Common] Recommended place for a first date
2. [Daytime date]
Recommended place for the first date
3. [Night date]
Recommended place for the first date
4. [Time] What time does
the first date end?
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Reference article
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What is the best place for a first date on dating apps? We also
introduce tips when meeting for the first time!
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[Common] Recommended place for first date with matching
app
Many people don't want others to know that they're meeting
on a dating app, so it's best to sit next to them far apart.
It's
a good idea to check in advance whether the store is a large store
such as a cafe or restaurant, and whether the store has seating
intervals.
Also, it is important to check if you smoke, and if you
do, choose a shop that allows smoking or a shop with a smoking space
nearby.
If you don't smoke, it's good to have a non-smoking seat
or a shop that is entirely non-smoking.
Private rooms, such as
karaoke boxes, completely private restaurants, drives, and houses,
will make you more wary, so refrain from going on your first
date.
[Daytime date] Recommended place for first date with
matching app
Having tea at a cafe or having lunch at a casual
restaurant can be a casual date, and the price is reasonable and not
a burden.
In addition, restaurants have a wide variety of menus,
so they can be adapted to most people's tastes.
It's best to avoid
restaurants that specialize in spicy food or ○○
restaurants on a first date when you don't yet know the other
person's tastes.
As for the time, it is best to meet before noon
or after noon, and to disperse in the evening. You can also show your
sincerity by finishing early.
If you have a movie date in the
daytime, you can't talk during the screening, so it's a good plan to
discuss your impressions at a cafe after watching.
Reference
article
• Lunch is recommended for the first date of the
matching app! What is the reason and how to choose a shop?
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[Date at night] Recommended place for the first date with
a matching app
In the case of a date night, food or drinks are
the main thing, so choosing a restaurant is important.
It is best
to avoid noisy places such as public pubs, as it is difficult to hear
the other person's voice and you cannot have a slow conversation.
We
recommend a bar or restaurant with dim lighting, moderate crowds, and
a good atmosphere where you can drink alcohol.
You can talk slowly
about each other while enjoying sake and food.
However, if there
are too few people, it will increase the wariness of the other party,
so be careful.
Also, if it is too late, it will be seen as a
spoiled eye, so it is best to arrive at the store between 19:00 and
20:00.
Reference article
• Is it okay to have a first
date on a dating app at night? Explain how to meet safely and
precautions!
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[Time] What time does the first
date on the matching app end?
As for how long you should spend
together on your first date, 3 hours is the best.
You may think
it's short, but the more you feel "a little unsatisfactory",
the more you want to meet again.
"I want to talk more",
"Let's ask this next time", etc. The expectation of the
next date will increase.
Also, the first date is the first time
you've met each other, so if you see each other for too long, you'll
get tired of worrying about it.
It's a good idea to wrap up after
the date before you say, "It was fun, but I'm tired."
Reference
article
• How long is the first date for dating apps? The
best time to meet for the first time is also explained!
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[The
day before] What to do before the first date on the matching
app
Many people are worried about whether their first date on
a matching app will go well.
Preparing for a successful first date
is essential.
Here, we will introduce the preparations and
checkpoints that you want to check and put on the day before the
date.
Whether the date goes well or not depends on the preparation
before the date, so let's figure it out.
What to do “before the
first date”
1. Check the other person's favorite foods and
hobbies
2. Reconfirm the other party's profile
3.
Review your messages
4. Shop reservation and date course
check
5. Exchange LINE
6. Tell them where to meet
7. Contact for confirmation
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The day before
the date 1. Check the other person's favorite foods and hobbies
If
you make a reservation at a restaurant that has a lot of food that
the other person doesn't like, you'll have the worst impression on
your first date.
Knowing your partner's favorite food will help
you avoid mistakes in your date plan, so at least you should
ask.
Also, knowing your hobbies and other things will be a topic
for talking about the date on the day, so the conversation will be
lively.
Before you meet for the first time, it is important to
research your favorite foods and dislikes.
Let's look back on the
exchanges on the straight line to meet and enjoy the time together
based on the information about the other person obtained in the
message.
The day before the date 2. Reconfirm the other
party's profile
The people you meet on matching apps are not
necessarily the only cases where you can get a solid message and get
a first date promise.
If you don't know much about the other
person during the interaction stage, it's a good idea to get
information about the other person from their profile.
It can be a
conversation piece when you don't know what to talk about on a first
date, and you can also use the information you've acquired to discuss
topics and get excited.
In the profile column of the matching app,
greetings, hobbies, how to spend holidays, views on love, etc. are
described, so it is a chance to get to know the other person well.
It
is recommended that you study the other person's profile again the
day before the date, as you may forget it due to nervousness.
The
day before the date 3. Review the message with the other party
In
the exchange of messages, you can check the information of the other
person that you cannot see from the profile, so it is important to
look back.
By talking about what you exchanged during the date,
such as "What happened to the ○○
you said last time?"
Also, if you talk about something you
casually talked about during exchanges, it will give you a good
impression that you remembered it properly.
The day before the
date, it is recommended that you think about things such as, "I
think this topic can be broadened further," as this will make
the conversation smoother.
The
day before the date 4. Shop reservation and date course check
On
the day of the event, rushing around looking for a shop to go to will
give a bad impression to the other person.
"You're not
booking a restaurant for me..." you'll be disappointed.
For
the other party, "reservation of the shop = feeling of caring
for the other party", so reservation is a must.
Also, even if
you don't make a reservation, if you prepare for the second
restaurant, you will be able to move smoothly to the next restaurant
when the first one is exciting.
The day before the date 5.
Exchange LINE
I often hear about people who meet on the day of a
date without exchanging LINEs and then cancel at the last minute when
the meeting time is approaching.
You can prevent sudden
cancellations just by exchanging LINE, so let's exchange LINE in
addition to messages on the matching app.
It is easy to confirm
tomorrow's date and make an emergency contact on the day of the date,
and it is best to exchange LINE the day before.
However, some
people may be wary and want to exchange LINEs after meeting, so if
you are reluctant to do so, please do not try to force the
exchange.
Reference article
• How to increase the
success rate of LINE exchanges with a matching app | Thorough
analysis of how popular men work
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The day before
the date 6. Tell an easy-to-understand meeting place
Many people
feel uneasy when someone they meet for the first time on a matching
app designates an unpopular and dark place or a hotel town as a
meeting place.
Not only will it take a long time to meet, but it
may also intimidate the other person.
We recommend meeting up at a
place that anyone can recognize, such as a famous spot with a
landmark in front of the station.
Before the date, send a message
asking, "Do you know where to meet tomorrow?" and the URL
of the map.
The day before the date 7. Confirmation by saying
"See you tomorrow!"
By contacting you for confirmation,
you can convey the feeling that you are looking forward to tomorrow's
date.
The other person will be happy to hear that they are looking
forward to it, and the impression will be better.
Also, by
contacting us the day before, we can be relieved that "it's
really okay" and "he'll come", which will help prevent
sudden cancellations out of fear.
The day before the date, it's a
good idea to keep it short and concise so that you can have a lot of
conversations on the day.
[On the day] What to do on the first
date on the matching app
The day of the first date finally
arrived. The content of the date determines whether it will lead to
the next date.
From here, I will explain what to do on the day of
the first date, points to be careful about, checkpoints, etc.
Let's
face the first date with awareness of clothes, conversation with the
other party, and confirmation on the day.
Make it a “first date
day”
1. As soon as you wake up in the morning, say "I'm
looking forward to today!"
2. Dress cleanly
3.
Don't let the conversation be one-sided
4. It is smart for
men to treat the bill
5. Check if the values and
compatibility with the other person are compatible
6. Make a
second appointment before breaking up
7. Break up because
it's a little unsatisfactory
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On
the day of the date 1. As soon as you wake up in the morning, call
"I'm looking forward to today!"
On the day of the first
date, not only you but also the other person is nervous.
By
contacting her on the morning of the day, I feel happy that she is
looking forward to the date.
Also, if you contact me before the
date is ready, you can give your partner a sense of security, saying,
"I'm glad the date didn't get canceled at the last
minute."
However, if you contact us too early in the morning,
the other party may not be awake and may be annoyed, so please send
it at a reasonable time.
Reference article
• Greetings
are important for the first date on a matching app! Introducing tips
for successful conversations!
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On the day of the
date 2. Dress cleanly
The first date is the first meeting with the
other person, so the impression of the appearance is quite
important.
You can make a good impression on the other person by
being conscious of the cleanliness of your hairstyle, clothes, and
makeup.
Cleanliness is more important than dressing and makeup for
men and women.
“Cleanliness” is so important that it ranks
first in terms of considering the opposite sex as a lover candidate,
so I would like to check it carefully.
For example, check if your
clothes are wrinkled or stained, if your shoes are worn out, if your
hair is messy, etc.
Before you go out on the day, look at your
whole body in the mirror and check it before going out.
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article
• [Women] 12 recommended outfits for the first date
of the matching app are released at once!
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On
the day of the date 3. Let the other person talk 80% so that the
conversation is not one-sided
People tend to feel "tired"
and "boring" when the other person is talking a lot.
On
the other hand, if you can talk a lot, you will think, "It's
exciting to talk with this person," and "It's a fun
time."
In order for the other person to have a good time, be
a listener and go in a style that delves into what the other person
has said.
The point to be careful about is that you will be able
to talk a lot with the other person by not only giving backs, but
also by responding in depth to the other person's story, such as
"What happened after that?"
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On the day of the date 4. It is smart for men to pay for
the bill
It's hard to decide whether to pay for the bill on the
first date or to split the bill, but in the case of men, it's better
to give a woman a better impression than not to buy it.
If a woman
asks you to split the bill out of consideration, it would be a good
idea to connect it to the next promise, such as "I will serve
you on the next date" or "I will buy you an ice cream on
the way home!"
When paying, it is smarter to pay while the
woman is going to the bathroom, so that there is no confusion in
front of the cash register.
In the case of women, it is important
not to take the attitude that men treat them for granted.
If you
are treated to something, be sure to express your gratitude by
saying, “Gochisousama deshita!” or “Thank you!”
On the
day of the date 5. Check if the values and compatibility with the
other party match
Dating apps allow you to meet a lot of people of
the opposite sex, so you should choose your second and third dates
carefully.
Check your values and compatibility, such as whether
you want to continue dating, what you value, what you can't give up,
and what your partner thinks.
Profiles and messages on matching
apps only show the good points of the other person, so it is
important to actually meet and talk to them to confirm.
However,
since it is the first date, they will be wary of getting too deep
into it.
First of all, it's a good idea to talk about your hobbies
and favorite things and check the comfort of the conversation.
Date
6. Make a second appointment before breaking up
In the matching
app, there are many rivals because you can easily meet a lot of
people.
Therefore, if you don't actively approach people who you
think are "nice", there is a risk that they will be taken
by others.
By asking for a second date, you will be able to convey
that you are interested in the other person, and it will be easier
for them to recognize you as the opposite sex.
Even if you
suddenly sound out while silence continues, there is a high chance
that you will fail, so be careful.
When asking for advice, it is
important to speak when the conversation is lively.
For example,
it would be natural to say "Would you like to go to the zoo next
time?" when you are excited about talking about animals.
You
can decide on a specific date plan later on LINE, so it's a good idea
to suggest a rough schedule and where you want to go next at the time
of the date.
On the day of the date7.
Since the first date
is the first time you meet each other, you may get tired if you meet
for a long time and make you think that you may not be a good match
for this person.
By dissolving within 3 hours, you will be more
interested in the other person, such as "I don't have enough to
talk about" and "I want to know more", and it will be
easier to connect to the next date.
Even if you feel like talking
more, hold back.
The point is to finish early and disperse,
saying, "I'm tired today, so let's go home after this."
What
to do after the first date on the matching app
You
may feel relieved after the first date on the dating app, but you can
make a good impression on the other person by taking action
immediately after the date.
If you don't take any action, the
other person will be worried that it was boring, so take action
immediately after breaking up.
Here are some specific things to do
after the first date. The response after the first date will change
the impression of the other person and lead to the next one.
What
to do “after the first date”
1. Do a thank-you LINE
first
2. Be specific about your next date
3. Stay on
LINE until the second date